Just Say No to Negativity

Negativity hurts. Socially, negativity is all too easy to find. What’s the point of dwelling on the negative? It just makes you feel icky and puts you in a bad mood.

  1. Don’t hate-consume. Hate-reading blog posts, hate-watching TV, hate-listening to radio programs or podcasts. Don’t do it. The time you spend hate-consuming is time you could have spent doing something you like.
  2. Avoid people/places/things you find unpleasant. If you know you don’t like it, and you can avoid it, why persist? Don’t take that phone call. Delete that email. Don’t shop at that store. Get rid of that thing that makes you grind your teeth every time you see it, even if it was a gift, even if you feel guilty over some expected sentimental attachment.
  3. Eliminate unproductive/unnecessary/unpleasant conversations. There are some people who, no matter what, will make things just awful. There are empty conversations, conversations that don’t need to be had, conversations that are unhelpful and unpleasant. Don’t engage. And don’t be that person, either. Ask yourself three questions each time you feel the impulse to engage: Does this need to be said? Does this need to be said now? Does this need to be said by me? (The answer is, probably not. Let it go.)
  4. Eliminate the drama. Know someone who, no matter what, always has an epic drama ongoing? Does every story become fodder for a telenovella? Are you that person? What’s the point? As with conversation, don’t engage. And if you’re that person, stop it.

Unfollow people on Twitter, tumblr, Facebook. Unfriend them there if you have to, if you can. Block those websites you hate-read using a browser extension if you need to. Find things that make you feel good, that make you feel happy. Fill your time with those things.

Is it easy? Not always. Is it better for you, and the world in general, in the long run? Absolutely.

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